I get a lot of emails from women whose husbands are deployed. Questions range from, “How can I get him to miss me more??” to “How do I stop crying?” and “What is normal?”

I’ve answered these all in previous post, but will post them again so that new readers have the chance to read them. The bottom line is that most of what we are feeling comes from the ‘thoughts’ we have. For most of us, contact is limited or non-exsistant with our spouses and that allows for our brains to assume. We try to “figure out” why we are not feeling connected. We find reasons when we can’t get the answers we so desperately want. We look for rationalizations when we need excuses. It’s scary what our minds are capable of. My best advice to anyone struggling through a deployment, exercise, or just a moment, is to talk. Continue reading →