Category Archives: Submarine
Aloha! “They Call Me Dependent” is coming to Hawaii!
The last few months have been full of many, many things. I’ve committed to my health and for the first time in years, followed through on working out. 7 lbs lost and I am feeling better than I have in a long time. I will be continuing “Me vs The Jiggles” while on vacation and plan to cross my half way point and be down 10 or more pounds by the time I return.
Many curve balls have been thrown in my personal life, but I’m still standing and laughing. What else can you do? Well, you can go on a vacation which just happens to involve visiting your sexy husband in Hawaii. That’ll make everything better!
A few weeks ago, the husband was talking about a work trip he had in Hawaii. He looked at me and said, “You should come, even if I have to work, you need a vacation.” I laughed at this idea. Me? Leave the kids? That’s what HE does, not me. I’m always home balancing my want to stay at home and my want to work and pursue dreams. I’m always busy, but I like it that way. My full life is rewarding, exhausting, and empowering. I love what I do. I didn’t think I *needed* a vacation. Funny, as a Mom you think of needs vs wants. I never once, in fourteen plus years ever considered *wanting* a vacation. Continue reading
Ask the Wife: How do you fill the “Void”
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Marie,
Thank you for writing this blog and sharing so much with the world. I wanted to ask, how do you fill the void when your husband is away? Thank you for your answer and time. Respectfully, “A Sub Wife”
Dear Sub Wife,
Thank you for the kind words and heartfelt question.
At first I thought since I am a Sub wife, this would be an easy one, yet I find myself a little too close to see the answers at times. This is a very broad question. There are so many “voids” when my husband is away. There is a void in my marriage, friendship, parenting, and family. In addition, my children have their own “voids” needing filled. I can give you the standard issue of “keep busy,” but that is a broad answer. Only a wife that has been there, done that, can truly explain what that “void” is. And even if you know what it is, most of us don’t know how to fill it. We just keep busy and try desperately to distract ourselves from the reality that it sucks. Don’t be misled by my statement. Staying busy is key, but it won’t fill the void. It fills your time. Continue reading
Got Questions?
I’ve been getting a lot of duplicate questions by email, so I will start posting them (without the use of names/commands/etc) on my Facebook Page with my responses so others can have the answers too and chime in on advice! Just remember to read my “Disclaimer Page” where I make it very, very clear I am not a doctor and in no way is this site like WebMD. I will give you my best answer (not the standard military one) or point you in the direction of someone who can answer it. All questions welcome, only select ones will be posted on Facebook. And no, I do not know the Muffin Man.
Thanks,
Marie
This may work, or end badly. . .we shall see.
GREAT NIGHT WITH THE USS ALABAMA (G) FRG
Thank you to the “Bama Wives & Girlfriends” for having me speak at their FRG Meeting tonight. This is such a great group of women and I really enjoy my time with them. I have received ship coins before, but never a special pin! I will wear it proudly. 
Thank you Ladies!
For Submarine Wives, email is golden. We don’t get phone calls and letters. E-mail is our connection to the one we love. And before there was e-mail. . .gosh, I don’t even want to think about it! With that said, I feel like I am having an actual relationship with my computer. It’s pathetic, I know. I have my MacBook going all day long. Granted I spend a ton of time writing every day, but I take it to bed with me. . .Yes, I said bed. I don’t tuck it in and hold it close to me, but it does sit on “The Husbands” side of the bed. And I’m sure I have mumbled something to it when I am frustrated. SIGH. This can’t be healthy. Continue reading
The Military Wife Prayer
I needed this today as I pulled out my Christmas decorations knowing that I would be without him.
I’m sure there is a spouse that needs it as much as I do right now.
A Military Wife’s Prayer
Author Unknown
Give me greatness of heart to see,
The difference between duty and his love for me.
Give me understanding so that I may know,
When duty calls him, he must go.
Give me a task to do each day,
To fill the time while he is away.
When he’s in a foreign land,
Keep him safe in your loving hand.
And Lord, when duty is in the field,
Please protect him and be his shield.
And Lord, when deployment is so long,
Please stay with me and keep me strong.
Tube Daze – Hey Shipwrek!
Here is the latest and greatest from Pat over at TubeDaze.com.
If you don’t know Pat, well then you’re just not a good person. Go introduce yourself and support his “morale boosting” show by giving him some L$VE.
Love the song Pat!
Episode 2-05
Happy Thanksgiving!!!
It’s 6AM Thanksgiving morning and the 24lb turkey is in the oven! I did the touch down hand signals once it was in and cooking. Normally I take pictures of my turkey conquest, this year, Tom the Turkey ate a little too much grain and was a handful!! I do have to say that my hands are super soft after T.T.T (Tom The Turkey) got his olive oil rub down. I threw all my favorite spices together and put T.T.T in an oven bag. Let’s all take a moment of silence to say a prayer that T.T.T turns out well. Ok, so I don’t want “well”, I want freakin awesome! I guess we’ll just have to wait and see!
I wish there were pictures of me shaking the flour around in the oven bag. . .I didn’t hold it closed tight enough and I was quickly covered in a fine mist of flour. Ahhh, a moment my husband lives for. He would get that smirk and kiss my fore head. I’m sure it would be merely for the fact that he is entertained every day in our marriage by my grace. Sigh. : ) Continue reading
Deployment Gremlins
***This and the prior post were written during our last deployment. This is a continuation of “Deployment Successes” which was posted the day prior. : )
Deployment Gremlins
So, one of my recent articles was about staying positive and focusing on the successes during deployments. Now I promise you I have been through a number of deployments where Murphy’s Law and the Deployment Gremlins tested me, but what happened in less than a week really got me thinking that I upset the Deployment Gremlins.
My deployment started off like anyone else’s. I was in denial thinking that my husband isn’t really leaving. I asked my husband the same question I ask him every deployment, “Do you think anyone would notice if you just didn’t go!?” He just gives me “the look” and kisses my forehead. I’ve been asking this question for years. I’d like to think it is a completely logical question. By the look he gives me, apparently not.
That night before my husband left, he accidently dropped my Mac Book. It is broken, really broken. It had everything on it. My appointments, calendar, address book, contact list for work and emails. It was my planner. On top of all that I had dozens of articles and columns saved on it. My husband just a few days prior was looking at hard drives and said I needed one. I told him I would wait and look around when I went into the city after he left. He told me I needed to keep my computer backed up. Yeah, Foreshadowing stinks. I have to say that I was freaking out on the inside, but told myself that it will be fine. I quickly wrote a new article talking about deployment successes because my original column was in my Mac. I wrote this incident off as an accident and didn’t think twice about it.
